7 Regrets of my 20’s

7 Regrets of my 20’s

Your twenties can be some of the best years
of your life. You’re finally an adult, and with that comes
true freedom while still maintaining a resilient and youthful body and mind. While you certainly should enjoy the prime
of your life, there is also an element of preparation and long-term game that I want
you to keep in mind. In this video, we’ll go over how to have
a blast in your twenties, but also set yourself up to be successful long-term. What’s going on guys! Dr. Jubbal MedSchoolInsiders.com. It’s a common misconception that becoming a doctor means you are signing away your twenties
and even your early thirties. I often hear medical students complain that
they are missing out on all the fun that their non-medicine friends are having, and that
they won’t be able to enjoy themselves until after residency. I do see where this sentiment comes from,
but I reject the emphasis played on delayed gratification. Why not enjoy your twenties, become a doctor,
and set yourself up for success in the future? I didn’t say it was gonna be easy, but it’s
definitely not impossible. First efficiency. Anyone familiar with this channel knows that
I’m a huge proponent of efficiency. Time is our most valuable asset and it’s about
time we start treating it as such. The majority of twenty-something-year-old’s
haven’t yet come to terms with the fact that our time on this planet is quite limited. By being highly efficient with your time and
maximizing each moment, you’ll be able to free up time for other important things in
your life. The key is to be highly deliberate with your
time. Every few minutes, I ask myself if I am spending
my time wisely and if not, how can I change that? Be mindful of wasting time on social media,
TV, and other pursuits that do not bring long-term value. One hour less of TV or Facebook means one
more hour of exercise, sleep, or quality time with friends and family. Now, you could consider both Facebook and
board games with friends or family to be leisure or relaxation time, but I would argue that
one of them is higher value than the other. Number two, take a stance and be true to yourself
The cliche of don’t care what others think has a good underlying principle but I believe
it is misguided. You do in fact need to care what others think
in order to be empathetic, to get good evaluations in medical school, and to match into a good
residency, and even to make friends. So instead of don’t care what others think,
let’s say, be true to yourself. Now during adolescence between the ages of
12 and 18 we enter the Erikson stage of identity versus role confusion. Erikson postulated that this is the time when
individuals discover their adult selves and solidify their beliefs and values. I would argue that this very much continues
into most people’s twenties. It’s helpful to care what others think in
many situations, but we often prioritize and overvalue their opinions even in cases where
it shouldn’t matter. In medical school, I would ride my bike with
a lunch box strapped to my backpack. I would wear pasty white zinc oxide sunscreen,
and I still wear a ridiculous looking wide-brimmed hat that protects me from UV rays. Some think it’s ridiculous, but I own it and
their opinion on such trivial matters doesn’t concern me. I do care, however, how my colleagues relate
to me, how they think of me as a leader, and how they think I can improve as an individual
both personally and professionally. As you get older, you’ll be more disappointed
by the things that you didn’t do rather than the things you did. I love the story by Jeff Bezos, the founder
of Amazon. Before starting Amazon, he had a secure and
well-paid position at an investment company in New York. He was considering quitting his job and starting
this book business. To aid him in making the decision, he turned
to what he coined a regret minimization framework, and what others may call the rocking chair
test. He imagined himself at age 80 and imagined
looking back, what would he regret more? Taking a leap, starting Amazon, and taking
a part in this thing called the Internet that he believed would be really big or not trying
at all. He knew that if he failed he would not regret
it, but he certainly would regret not having ever tried. Number three, don’t enter a career because
of parental pressure. This ties in nicely with the above point but
deserves to stand on its own. Remember that while your parents want what
is best for you, it is ultimately up to you to decide what that actually is. Some parents pressure their children to pursue
medicine. But it is incredibly important to set some
boundaries between you and your parents so that you can figure out what you want both
personally and professionally. At the same time, value parental support,
as they often have life experience and wisdom that you have yet to acquire. If you do want to become a doctor, you need
to be going into medicine for the right reasons. Check out our previous video to learn what
those reasons are. Going into medicine for the wrong reasons,
such as parental pressure will result in burn out, depression, and ultimately regret. Number four, schedule exercise. It’s much easier to build healthy habits for
a sustainable lifestyle in your twenties. As you get older and additional responsibilities
pile on, it becomes that much more difficult. There are a multitude of benefits to regular
exercise. You obviously look better and be more attractive
to the opposite sex, but you’ll also experience higher sustained energy levels, improved focus
at school which translates to better grades, and improved mood, sense of well-being, and
happiness. If you’re finding it hard to be regular
with exercise, we have a few videos that can help. Remember to choose a form of exercise that
you enjoy. I personally opt for cycling and weight training
over running for exactly that reason. Number five, enforce healthy dietary habits. In high school and college, your metabolism
allows you to get away with a suboptimal diet. As you get older, physiologic changes in your
metabolism will catch up with you. Those late-night pizza runs are not gonna
cut it anymore and neither will binge drinking, hangovers come with a newfound vengeance. There is a common misconception that eating
a healthful diet is mutually exclusive with enjoying your food. As someone who has eaten a very clean diet
for years, I can confidently say that this is not true. Our taste preferences are molded by cultural
influences, which often includes highly processed foods high in simple carb or saturated fat
content. Healthy food is actually tasty. Once you break the cycle of sugar addiction
and loving these processed foods, you’ll see what you’ve been missing. Your dietary habits are some of the hardest
habits to change, but they will stick long term. It is easier to change while you are young,
so invest the effort now in learning how to practice healthful eating. You will be glad you did. Number six, choose your friends wisely. I’m sure you have heard this one before, you
are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. There are two lessons to learn here, first,
choose your friends wisely. You may outgrow certain friendships, and that
is totally okay. I have experienced that myself and while it
does not feel good in the moment, it’s often for the best. Second, prioritize relationships that matter
to you. As you enter your twenties, everyone, including
yourself, seems to become busier and busier. For that reason, it becomes even more crucial
to put in the effort to reach out to others. Don’t expect that they will reach out to you,
be proactive and cultivate life-long friendships that will bring you tremendous value for years
to come. Lastly, get outside of your comfort zone. You probably think you’re already getting
outside of your comfort zone, but I guarantee you can take it much further. For some people, that’s traveling solo around
the world. For others, it quitting a safe and secure,
high-paying job to follow their dreams. To those that are afraid of public speaking,
I suggest you join Toastmasters and overcome your fears. Even better, join an improv class and work
your way up to stand-up comedy. Your twenties are a pivotal time in your life. The more you put in, the more you’ll get out. The most significant and life-changing habit
for me has been adopting a growth mindset and critically assessing how I can improve
in my life. If you’re here watching this video, it means
that you’re cultivating a growth mindset too and you’re on the right path. These are my seven tips to living more effectively
in your twenties. I would love to hear any additional tips that
you may have down in the comments below. As always, thank you all so much for watching. If you haven’t already check out my new vlog
channel for a behind the scenes peek on the life of a doctor. Let us know what other topics you want us
to cover and I will see you guys in that next one.

100 Replies to “7 Regrets of my 20’s

  1. Number 6 is SO TRUE! People don't reach out to you, you gotta do it yourself. So stop whining nobody calls or texts you, go out and text or call them instead. You will feel better hearing from that person knowing you said wassup to them then whining about it and feeling bad and NOT saying wassup to them and NOT hearing from them.

  2. Going to bed early (around 8 pm) and waking up early (around 3 am) will get you enough sleep and ensure that you have time to exercise in the morning. I go for a jog around 3:30 and clear my email and patient messages, take a shower, eat breakfast, and do some laundry and reading all before 6 am.

  3. You really going to convince insta hoes (men and women) to use their time wisely? Whahaha. i bet they can't stay 5 min away from their social media accounts. Addicted AF like slaves. Till they reach 30, oh fuck, my goals & dreams. Haha.

  4. "Choose your friends wisely"? Haha, I can't even make friends in the first place…

    Also, my regret of my 20s (I'm 28 now and pretty much wasted that entire best decade of my life…) is not going to a psychologist a decade ago. FML.

  5. To me I highly recommended u all to read books financial , self improvment and such …
    Read & listen to books make it a way of life beside meditation .


  6. You are putting waaaay to much value in the 20s. People can change at any age. They just need a strong reason and self discipline.

  7. My biggest regret would be using alot of alcohol and drugs and being addicted for literally my entire twenties. It zoomed past, i lost alot of precious memories, friends, braincells and despite that i had alot of good times all the bad were definitely not worth it. I am 32 now, still dealing with the remains of that but being sober and living a life without alcohol or drugs is so much more amazing and fullfilling that i wish i had realised this sooner. I am afraid that because of this i will face health issues much sooner in life than others but I know i can't turn back time and have learned my lessons the hard way. The biggest plus i get out of this is that i literally can deal with anything because it fades in comparison with the hardships back then but being completely derived from any substance makes you at least just as strong. I can be the person i want to be and be there for everyone instead of constantly deal with myself. As soon as you realise you can't handle substances.. RUN. Forget alcohol! It ruins your mood, your ability to think clearly ALOT more than you actually realise and you can then truly make the most out of yourself. Once you are at a party with just drunk people you realise how stupid it is. I literally NEVER thought it would make such a difference, it takes a huge amount of time to get back to normal, but it's totally worth it, choose the sober life, not only if you're an addict!

  8. Have fun and be successful later in life.

    Delayed gratification
    1. Efficiency
    – Time is limited
    – Be deliberate and intentional about how you spend your time
    – a question

    2. Be true to you
    – Care what others think
    – Live with no regrets
    – Try

    3. Live your best life
    – Do not live your parent life
    – You will feel depressed

    4. Exercise
    – Better energy and mood

    5. Great diet
    – Healthy food is good
    – Stop sugary treats

    6. Choose friends wisely
    – You're the avg of 5 people
    – Prioritize the relationship

    7. Go out the comfort zone
    – Join TMI Toastmasters and overcome
    – Travel internationally solo
    – Quit job to follow your dreams

  9. This is the best motivational video I've seen among hundreds. Now whenever I don't feel like it, I just have to get back to this. Thank you so much! ❤

  10. I'm now 24 and several months ago I started study japan language on univesity! I would definitely regret if I didn't try.

  11. I'm in my 20's,but I just don't like this video. This should be advices for everyone ,even if you are a teenager or you are in your 50s. Is never too early or too late.

  12. The Erikson stage of identity is such an interesting concept.

    My mother was murdered when I was 16 in Mexico and I went into functioning depression and denial, only I didn’t know. We lost our home, family business, I had to move to another country with family members and I didn’t see my friends again. For a while I was stuck in that moment, and failed to discover myself and shape my personality.

    I didn’t beat depression until 26, but I always felt something was off about me in comparison to others.

    For instance, I didn’t know who I was or what I liked. Depression takes out the joy in things, so for a long time I was really sad about not knowing whom I was because I didn’t get to explore a lot of me for a handful of years.

    Everything has changed now but there’s a lot of things I didn’t experience and I didn’t socialize after my mom died for a while so I’m trying to regain my social skills at the moment.

    Anyone here into psychology that can clarify if my theory somehow explains that emptiness in my personality?

  13. The 2nd advice is so true!!! I seriously don't believe in people that says "screw what other think, don't care about what other think" yeah it's sometimes can be a positive phrase but now days the meaning is misguide by many.

  14. I don't want to be the pessimistic one, but everytime I watch those videos, it has the "easy-to-say but hard-to-do" vibe. Each time I do change my lifestyle, I rarely maintain new good habits. And I realized that I never had a real good reason to live rather than survive. Today, I do 4 hours commuting per day, I used to awake myself at 6 am, and I come back at 8pm, and then go to sleep at 10 pm. Always that way, it was perfect routine to survive but I neglected every thing I used to enjoy… And I saw less and less the purpose of doing that. I was depressed as hell and my life had no meaning to me. But since a few months, I started to awake earlier, 5 am, and go to bed later, less sleep but more time… To meditate. I need to continue that way, but I struggle to maintain this habit and the focus to do so, because of the lack of purpose.

  15. You know I agree with less time on social media and TV, but I also disagree with the necessity to be more "efficient" with your time. How exactly would you determine efficiency? I think especially nowadays we can learn a great deal from people like Diogenes and many of our forefathers who valued time spent doing nothing at all. When I hear you talk all I can think of is burnout.

  16. One thing I'm learning about in my 20's.. is just "living life". School can never teach you this. Neither can parents or your family. You have to live life and experience it, to learn.

  17. I dont understand the "choose your friends wisely" idea. I am currently in my early 20s and have surrounded myself with friends that show me the most amount of love and are fun to be around. I can always be myself, have fun, and we all share similar interests. But in terms of status, I want to go on to be a doctor and potentially own my own practice whereas these friends are not nearly as ambitious and were not good students in school. Does this mean that I need to choose new friends in order to get to where I want to get Career wise? Or is it possible for me to work hard and reach my goals while also having "lower status" friends. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you

  18. Life is one hell of a journey and everything stated in this video I total agree with, especially when you stated taking the leap of faith and following yours dreams

  19. Great video, thanks for making 😊 I regret every minute i spent being lazy, and by that i dont mean having fun, but doing literally nothing instead of sth productive.. its important to fight with procrastination constantly 🙂

  20. I'm looking for YOUr vídeo about YOUr desk / study station. I could not find it among your videos, please could you provide the link here? I don't even remember where I saw your mention of it. I'm new to your channel but I really enjoyed it .

  21. My tips:
    Eat healthy
    Do yoga
    Start taking care of your skin
    Avoid stress
    Get plenty of sleep/rest
    Stay out of the sun
    Save your money
    Read books
    Learn how to play a musical instrument
    Learn /experience new stuff
    Learn how to cook a few meals

  22. Time you enjoyed wasting is not time wasted. Some people need time not-maximized in order to maintain sanity — it's not a waste and it's unfair to characterize it that way.

  23. Your not going to be a doctor becouse you want to be succesfull … you learn medicine becouse you are the tip of the spear , you want to help others …yeah offcourse its a high status degree ..but if your going to med school just for the money ..then..forget it , youll drop out in the first year . #harderthennasa
    Good day .

  24. Regret #3 – My mother is a victim of that reason. I never saw her come home from work and say I can’t wait to work tomorrow.

  25. I agree with almost the whole video except where you say enjoying unhealthy food is a cultural thing. I'm no doctor but the reason humans enjoy unhealthy food is because the point of it is to make you feel good and taste amazing because of the chemicals put in that make you release endorphins and the sweet spots this food triggers on your tongues taste buds. With that being said healthy food can still taste good .

  26. Thanks bro you're right! I'm 24 & just getting out of my comfort zone all over again. Career comfort I mean. Taking risks are apart of growth. 👌

  27. Being a med student is a waste of time we live in the 21st century being a doctor doesnt class you as successful anymore.

  28. I’m 21 and already have a lot of responsibilities on my shoulder. I’m the the first generation in my family to make it in life. I’m a realtor. I support the family pretty much paying bills, mortgage, and supporting my parents and younger siblings. Sometimes I just want to pack up and move to another city and live my life and explore new things. Ive never had the chance to do things I want because I feel as if I become selfish and think of myself. When I want to start a risky venture or business I can’t because what I do will effect others lives. It’s stressful but at the end I know I’m doing it for family.

    Thanks for reading this I just wanted to vent.

  29. i strongly agree with many of those points. It is a great time for us to invest in ourselves. We want what is best for us for the future, so we need to use our times wisely (out of the 7 points, I am only achieving 3 so I need to work on that)

  30. A book that I feel aligns quite well with the idea of a growth mindset and becoming your best version is Mastery by Robert Greene

  31. You are just amazing !! But I am not a medical student. It would be great if there was channel similar to yours for engineering too.

  32. im 20 made mistakes in my entrepreneurial journey but aye, what i am able to do best, is turning bad energy into good energy into motivation feeding my mindset, i wont stop, i will make my dream come true, i know it, but im still beating myself up about that mistake ive made all the time until now.

  33. I am 14 and I am preparing myself for my 20s
    Wish me luck(also to my twin):)
    Also, your age doesn’t matter all that much. You just need self confidence and a strong reason, along with willpower, to keep moving

  34. I did everything to ruin my twenties. Skipped grad school, moved in with a guy who I ended up leaving because we were incompatible and in between jobs that don’t even require a college degree. I fucked it up and now I’m 26, depressed, probably not even attractive due to my depressed look, and not skilled in a particular area.

    I fucked up my life so bad that it all seems like a dream.

  35. I am lost. I have no kids. I'm not in school. I am 19 bday next year sept. Still living with mom….what am I doing wrong? Everyone is telling me to go to school. But I can't find nothing i like that's worth going to school for.I am scared when I reach 20 I still won't know.

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