How to Survive Thanksgiving with an Eating Disorder! Kati Morton on Bulimia, Anorexia & Psychology

How to Survive Thanksgiving with an Eating Disorder! Kati Morton on Bulimia, Anorexia & Psychology

66 Replies to “How to Survive Thanksgiving with an Eating Disorder! Kati Morton on Bulimia, Anorexia & Psychology

  1. I'm facing my first thanksgiving working in an ER as a nurse and not around the dinner table. I hope everyone keeps themselves healthy and happy… and safe!!! Much love to the kinions and Kati :))

  2. Preparation for the holidays is the hardest part, anticipation is a monster that tells us we will fail……kick that monster in the butt!! Xox

  3. I've been seeing myself develop an ED since I was REALLY young, and now I'm 15. Starting this summer, though, I really think it's picking up speed. I only eat things with extremely low calories and when I actually do eat I purge it all. I'm also becoming really obsessed with food altogether, and I know it's bad, but the problem is I don't want to stop. My friend noticed that I don't eat and he talked to me but I told him that's ridiculous and my mom straight up asked me if I'm anorexic and I did the same. I do whatever I can to hide it, like throwing up in a bag in my room and stuff like that. I like starving myself and purging makes me feel better, and I actually realize I have a huge problem but I don't wanna stop. Is this normal? And if I tell my therapist will they force me into treatment? Thank you

  4. Thank you for this video. Although I may not have an eating disorder but I know people in my life that I am going to show this video. Stay awesome Kati.

  5. These are also great tips for people with other things like anxiety. Another thing I would add would be to establish your allies. One time my niece excused herself and said that her anxiety was getting high. Her grandmother got personally offended and after my niece left said, "Well!" I jumped in there and explained that it was ok. It didn't have anything to do with any one person, my niece just needed a chance to calm down in a quiet place. Although this happened kind of by accident, this year I'm going to try to set up someone to explain things if I need to suddenly take a break.

  6. Kati, I love that you always say "we". It's such a little thing but I can imagine it makes a huge difference in making these problems feel less overwhelming and isolating for the people who benefit from your videos x

  7. #katiKAQ Kati! I have a question for you! What should I do if my parents are not supporting me for trying to get help. I've been to countless doctors appointments about my anxiety,depression and now I'm struggling with auditory and visual hallucinations. And my mom always telling me I'm faking my problem so I could fit it with the mentally ill kids. But that's the complete opposite! I just want help. Now my doctor is giving me anti psychotics but my mom says so no meds because she says it means I'm " weak". But I'm not! I want her to realize that it's not normal to feel this way. But she keeps telling me to stop pretending. Kati what do I do about this what should I tell my mom

  8. Kati can you make a video about depression and holidays? Also can you please make a video about Epilspy and Mood Disorder? Can you please comment me back.

  9. God I needed this!!!! I've been worrying about thanksgiving so so so much and today at IOP they told me that I actually have to go on a meal plan now and shit I'm just an anxious mess! And they wanna move me to partial hospitalization instead of IOP so I'd be there for 5 hours a day instead of 3 and it feels like everything is just getting worse!!!

  10. #katiefaq
    Hi Katie, I'm sorry for bothering you but I just wanted to ask a question.
    My names Chelsey and I've just turned 18. I've recently opened up with my psychologist about my eating and she referred me to an eating disorder clinic.
    I had my first appointment today. I have been diagnosed with anorexia/bulimia subtype.
    They want to use maudsley therapy with me and my family. I'm absolutely terrified to give control over my food to my parents. Especially since Ive had a lot of responsibility for a long time now and now I can't even feed myself.
    However my parents don't fully understand the eating disorder or how they can support me.
    I also have a lot of opportunity to skip meals and my parents are easily influenced by me. It is very easy for my eating disorder to take back that control.
    Do you have any advice?

  11. Hey Kati 💕

    You tried to guest me on Friday but it didn't work so well. My question was about changing therapists.

    I was seeing a therapist who I really got on with and after years I started opening up about past abuse. It was getting to the point where I was ready to go into detail and talk about it all. Then out of the blue a admin worker from the organisation told me she had left and I was to see someone else. I spoke to my therapist who was equally as annoyed and upset but they wouldn't allow her to stay on(she'd got a new job offer) and finish our sessions (we get a limited number). To make it worse there wasn't a hand over process either. So I had to start therapy with someone else who knew nothing. It has been a few weeks now but I don't have the strength to do this all over again and I don't feel as comfortable. I feel like as soon as I do open up I'll be left again. I don't think I have the strength to do it if I'm honest but I feel like I need to to help with my PTSD, anxiety, OCD and depression but all of this has made it all ten times worse. I know I shouldn't let one bad experience put me off but I can't get the trust back. I feel like giving up. I'm still attending appointments but skirting over the issues and just chit chatting, someone else could be benefitting from the time with her. I really don't know how to handle it all if I'm honest 😔

  12. loved this vid kati it really brightened my dayand it was informative and helpful . this helped me feel a little happier in a bad situation today I was beat up really badly I have broke my arm real bad the bone is stcking out and it could have caused tendant damage and I got my jaw broke and most my teeth have gone . I have been bullied for ages and I guess they really wanted 2 hurt me u have told my sister but if she does something I fear that I'm gonna end up worse than I am now . I'm gonna need three surgerys to fix my arm jaw and teeth

  13. I hope that you all have a wonderful time of thanksgiving over there in the states 🤗🤗 kati – what about doing a video a little about you? I dunno – say your 10 top favourite things atm? x x

  14. #KatiFAQ Hi please could you make a video about high control groups like cults and how they affect people? Look up Steven Hassan for help

  15. I was wondering if there was anyone else here who considers themselves recovered (been "recovered" for 3 years) but this is around the time I was really deep within my ED & depression and EVERY YEAR I start feeling depressed and even find myself wanting to lose weight but it'll be completely unrelated like I'll say I want to start working out or eating better – it'll seem completely healthy…EVERY SINGLE YEAR around this time. Why is that? Does anyone else experience this?

  16. I just want to stay home so I don't have to deal with any family. I would rather skype my best friends. I miss loving the holidays.

  17. Hey Katie! I saw you on you now not to long ago! 😁 thankyou for your answer! I would have thanked you more but I was so nervous and shaky haha

  18. Best way I can survive any stressful situation with my ED about food is to surrender it. I get someone to make my plate for me and remind myself that it's just food and my body needs it and it is what it is. It's hard, but so freeing when it works.

  19. Thanks, I don't have an eating disorder but the thought of being with my family during the holidays makes my heart race. I've already made it as short as possible, now I just have to survive!

  20. I'm really frustrated at the moment. Because in my country we have to use the state for anything that falls into the category of mental health, and because services are severely underfunded (particularly in my area) – I have been forced to use a private counsellor who isn't really qualified in the area I need help with and doesn't have the authority to offer treatment, but she seemed very impressed with how I had managed myself. So I have been forced to counsel myself – this has meant typing up a report myself covering hundreds of pages, plus trying to condense it all down into a smaller report. It has taken me something like 18 months to do all that. I was desperately low trying to do it. All I have had from the official state psychiatrist was a 45 minute session way back in April this year and that was it. I left him all my stuff, which he said he would read. I don't know if the state psychiatrist is over-worked or can't be bothered or is prejudiced or have their hands tied behind there back? – I was warned by my doctor that services in my area are "shit"… but because of the rules I can't really go through a different health system in another part of the country without moving there myself. Another option is a skype or telephone session with someone who is qualified – but that will cost a lot of money and may still not be able take me as far as the state could for legal reasons about what private services are allowed to offer in my country… I sent them all my stuff as well – I don't know whether to pay them to read it or if I'll have to recite it all live in a conversation? I feel like just going to my doctor or something and just giving him the report I have written and just saying "I know you don't have the time and nobody else has the time, but if anybody by some miracle does have the time and the authority, then this is everything they need to know". I don't know what more else to do in a system with huge delays and very little resources and not much money myself to do as I please in terms of help. I don't feel as though I can do anything on my own terms – it's like in the film The Never Ending Story when Atreyu seeks guidance from that giant turtle only to be told he his on the wrong side of the planet and might as well just give up.

  21. thanks Kati! my goal this time is to eat in front of others. that is a hard thing for me to do but this year I want to give it a chance. thanks to you I am going to give it my best shot!

  22. hey not sure if you'll see this but just in case #katifaq aha

    What is the difference in terms of physical damage in EDs between a lower severity over a longer timescale vs more severe but not for as long?

    I know the damage that can be caused by anorexia/bulimia/BED. BUT when people go into treatment for these conditions it's usually fairly acute right? As in its getting real bad or has been very intense for some time. With OSFED, of course, one can go through phases of similar issues and the intensity can vary. But if your eating disorder has never been bad enough to "need" (and I use this term loosely because I'm really talking about medical need) intervention and treatment, can it still cause damage? It can be around for a really really long time at a lower severity, so more chronic than acute. Does this effect what the physical implications are? Are the risks the same or different? How do you know if you should be worried (does your body reach a point where it can't continue as with AN or BN?)? Please help I'm so confused I asked my therapist and she didn't really know.

    love you and your videos always xx

  23. #katifaq I have moments where it feels like im no longer in control of what i do and it feels almost like im watching myself. Most of the times this happens i don't remember much from what happened. Quite a few times that this has happened when it ended ive realized that i tried to commit suicide. The one time i took all of what was left of my medicine and tried overdosing but did not remember doing it and only realized i did cause i got really sick and found the pill bottle in my bed. Ive started to realize when im going to go into one of those states and its usually when i start to feel emotionally overwhelmed and anxious. Im not sure what is happening. Kati do you have any idea what may be happening?

  24. #katifaq Kati, how long does it take the bloating to go away after stopping ED behaviors? For instance, when will food begin to digest normally again, when will the weight gain level out, and when will the feeling of a perma-food belly go away? 🙂

  25. could you do more videos on BPD. ? I need more information on it. also what maybe you have on how someone who has a really hard time with it can actually get better? ways to? an more on what it's like for others with bpd. ty

  26. What if you have EDNOS😞 I mean I don't celebrate Thanksgiving but I do with Christmas and omg. It's gonna be a week of eating non stop. How can I go through that without eating too much or end up purging or just not eat because of the fear of eating too much?

  27. Thank you for the great tips!! Happy Thanksgiving! Head over to our channel and check out our Pumpkin Spice Food tutorials you wont be disappointed

  28. Hey Kati! I love your videos. I saw your video on dating advice and it got me thinking. As a trans person, dating can have a unique set of challenges. Do you have any advice? When and how do I disclose my trans status? How do I handle meeting their family as a pre-transition person who doesn't always "pass"? How can I make physical intimacy less uncomfortable on both of our parts? I realize
    I appreciate your advice. 🙂

  29. Kati! Question… So I find it hard to talk to my parents about this and when they found out they flipped. My school counselor pushes me away 24/7 and I don't trust my family based team. So at this point, I don't know who I can talk to… What should I do?

  30. my mum was put in a medically induced coma because of a brain aneurysm that ruptured the 19/11/16. I'm trying so hard to stay strong for her, but all i want to do is end it all…

  31. #KatiFAQ – how do you know when it's right to leave work because your me talk health is bad? I have just had 2 weeks off sick and have gone back as have been fine. 2 days into being back, the bad thoughts are coming back again 😔 due to the specific role of my job, I'm not willing to go on long term sick. it's best that I leave so they can get someone to replace me. how do I know of this is the right thing to do and that I'm not making a mistake? when I say bad thoughts I mean constant suicide ideation and impulses 😔

  32. Hi Kati, unfortunately I've had to make the decision to not travel to my parents for the holidays this year. It'll be the first year without seeing them but I'm having a really tough time with BPD (SH, dissociation and suicidal ideation) and leaving them to travel home afterwards would likely have a devastating affect on me. Any advice on telling them? Feels like a very selfish decision… Thank you x X

  33. i met my cousins girlfriend for the first time well everybody in my family sort of did besides his oldest sister because of shared phone sort of thing (the 3 of them have a crossed line so sometimes the siblings get other phone calls from a siblings friend)

    well the oldest cousin met the girlfriend because of cross wires and she had no idea who she was so their first experience with each other was 3 mins of dead silence

    all that my cousin who has the girlfriend was thankful for was that the phone wasnt hung up because then his girlfriend might have thought she was cheating on him

    she comes from an italian family so even though she was full when my oldest cousin gave her something to try she was trying to eat it all even though she was full and going back to her family to have to eat more and she is a tiny little thing

    thx for this ha bisky vid she doesnt really know what to do about this because she knows it would be rude if she doesnt eat and she will get yelled at

  34. i consider myself to be recovered, but the holidays are always very hard for me. last year was the first thanksgiving that i was able to eat food and keep it down. i’m nervous for today but i know i can do it

  35. Hey Kati! So.. Uhm Well.. I don't Think I have depression. But I don't know. I don't know why I self-harm. I just started to not eat much, And exercise. I have alot of pain inside of me, But I don't think I do.. But I can kind of feel it. I Am disgusted with my personality, I get upset or Irrational and snap. I hate how I hurt the ones I love. I don't feel like anybody at school would honestly care if I died. I have self-hatred. I feel like I make it all up. What could this be?

  36. I really don't have an eating disorder kinda just issues with food and weight and I restrict. One of the tips was to stay present…. how do I do that on a holiday, surrounded by food, when I can barely stay fully present during family dinners that I have almost every night?

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